This is the first paragraph of Chapter 2 from Brenè Brown’s book “Daring Greatly”.
“The perception that vulnerability is weakness is the most widely accepted myth about vulnerability and the most dangerous. When we spend our lives pushing away and protecting ourselves from feeling vulnerable or from being perceived as too emotional, we feel contempt when others are less capable or willing to mask feelings, suck it up, and soldier on. We’ve come to the point where, rather than respecting and appreciating the courage and daring behind vulnerability, we let our fear and discomfort become judgement and criticism.”
The chapter makes a stunning statement in the second paragraph. “Vulnerability is the core of all emotions and feelings. To feel is to be vulnerable. To believe vulnerability is weakness is to believe that feeling is weakness.” The catalyst to that belief is living with fear, shame, grief, sadness, and disappointment.
Question: What does vulnerability feel like? Is it a weakness?
Answer: NO. Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Both are not always comfortable, but they are never weakness.
If your goal is to understand why you feel like you feel, start reading Brenè Brown’s series of book beginning with “I Thought it Was Just Me (but it isn’t)”.